Ever have that feeling of being shocked, yet not at all surprised by a fact? I had that feeling the first time I was told that an estimated 80% of jobs are never listed. I’ll give that a moment to sink in – 80%. percent. of jobs. You still with me? Good. Those jobs are usually filled by a candidate who knew someone within the company. That probably doesn’t surprise you, but if you’re relatively new in your career, the numbers can be staggering and leave you a little bit queasy.
So now you realize networking is even more important than you might have previously thought. Recently I was a volunteer at the New York Women in Communications’ annual Student Career Conference, where industry vets share their experience and expertise with students and young professionals. While sitting in on some of the discussions and watching tons of networking take place, I started to think about what I’ve learned, what I wish I’d known earlier, and what I think everyone should know. Here’s some of the most important networking lessons you need to learn:
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If you’re anything like me, you were shocked to discover that dating in your twenties is nothing like dating in high school or college. For one thing, the stakes are higher — people start talking about the future and it’s not some distant, made-up thing. Some people are looking for things that you are not looking for, or vice versa.
It’s also a lot more ambiguous, particularly if you’re not on the same page but unaware of it. And even if it’s clear-cut from the beginning, spoiler alert: some relationships end.
The upside to breaking up when you’re still attending classes is if you get publicly upset, people give you a break. I was in high school only for the era of America Online profiles and away messages, but I can only imagine it’s gotten more explosive and emotional since then, what with Facebook, Twitter, and the fact that everyone has a blog. The point is, there is a certain part of your life where it’s completely normal to have a sobbing fit in the cafeteria after you’ve been dumped. But as you age, and break-ups actually hurt more because you’ve invested time and dreams into them, you’re supposed to be mature and calm.
But how do you do it? How do you keep your 9-to-5 when getting out of bed feels impossible? Your blog writer has been in the trenches so you’ll hopefully have a better path. Here are my (totally unprofessional) tips: