On the list of the most stressful life events, moving in with a significant other is somewhere near the top. I can personally attest that it’s there for good reason. Moving in with a boyfriend or girlfriend is extremely different from living with roommates, and I know couples who’ve broken up because they jumped in without being fully ready. If you’re about to move in with your significant other or you’re considering it, here is some hard-earned wisdom from my first year of cohabitation.
Assess whether or not you’re actually ready to move in together. I mean for real.
Have you been together less than a year? Stop reading this. You’re not ready. I’m serious, just don’t. Hit the one year mark and then we’ll talk.
Haven’t had real, productive fights yet? Get out of here now.
Are you moving in because one of you just got kicked out of your current living space or is going through some major transitional period or is short on cash and needs a place to live? Find another solution, even if it’s temporary. Moving in because you “have” to is just going to add undue stress to an already stressful situation and possibly lead to a breakup that could otherwise have been prevented.